Childlike Whispers in the Wind

The inner child influences us all. There is “Childlikeness” in all of us. What does your inner child tell you today? The inner child influences our actions, interprets our experiences and impacts our emotions.

Webster defines “Childlikeness” as one who is marked by innocence, trust, and ingenuousness; resembling, suggesting, or appropriate to a child; childlike delight.

You know what I like the most about children? It’s their innate ability to trust. They believe everything that is told to them. It’s in their nature. I know that this is the part of me that I feel is my biggest obstacle. I too have a tendency to trust everyone. Sometimes, a little voice whispers inside my head and tells me to be cautious but usually I throw that caution to the wind and jump straight into the kettle.

I believe that if you can’t have fun in life, then what’s the point in living. I always tried to make my job fun, no matter where I was, until the bureaucracy got the best of me. Usually, that was because I trusted everyone and everything….silly me. Because of my nature, I get my feelings hurt very easily. I set expectations for my relationships (both personally and professionally) too high and then when those expectations aren’t met, I allow myself to be hurt. But I have to say, being a trusting soul is not a quality about myself in which I wish to change. However, I am working on managing my relational expectations a little better and that has certainly helped me in my journey. I am not 100% successful but I can tell you that I don’t allow myself to get my feelings hurt as much as I did previously.

The other thing about children is that they have the ability to turn work into a game. I know when I want to get my daughter to do a task, we just make a game out of it and most of the times the work gets done. Children enjoy life! They can enjoy just about anything. These past few years of being in school and completely stressed out, I had forgotten how to have fun. Children live in the moment every day.

“Seek to become and remain childlike with all the simplicity of a child. It will enhance the quality of your life in a most amazing way.” -Joyce Meyer

Complicated and Simple Defined

Wester defines the word complicate as "to make or become complex, intricate, or bewildering," or "to twist or become twisted together." If something is complicated, it is difficult to understand. However, simple is defined as "having or composed of only one think or part," "not complex: EASY", "without modifications or additions, unassuming or unpretentious, not deceitful: SINCERE"

When we are complicated inside, then everything else in life seems that way to us. Joyce Meyer (in her book Enjoying where you are on the way to where you are going" tells us that sometimes our desire torment us and keep us from enjoying life. I know that at this stage of my life there is very little that I want or desire. That in itself has made my heart a lot lighter and me much more content. Over the past few years I have been intermittently "de-cluttering" my house. Today for instance, I went through my closet and by the time I was finished, I had filled the dining room table with clothes, purses, and shoes that I will never wear again. I only wear a handful of clothes over and over again anyway. I don't really need all that much.

Over the years, as Meyer states, I too have learned the Peace and Joy are more valuable than things. The simpler I make my life, the more peace I tend to enjoy.

What does your sculpture look like today?

All of life is a sculpture that continues to evolve as unwanted bits and pieces of wood and marble are chipped away. Simplicity is creation without baggage. As we get rid of the bits and pieces of emotional and physical garbage our personal sculpture evolves closer towards our authentic selves. As the carving evolves, it becomes more distinguishable and simpler in form.

A simple life has a different meaning and a different value for every person. For me, it means eliminating all but the essential, eschewing chaos for peace, and spending my time doing what is important to me. I am not always successful. In fact, my life is chaos about as much as it is simple. I can tell you, however, that at one time in my life it was utter chaos so to be able to allow myself time to “live simply and in the moment” is quite an accomplishment for me.

Living simply is also about surrounding yourself with people who love and care about you for your unique individualism. There is this individual in my life in which I need to begin to distance myself. Lets call her Jane. When I am around her, I let her make me feel small, insignificant, and I lose confidence. For instance, the other night, she came to my home to pick up her child. Within the first two minutes of being there, her phone rang so she began talking on the phone with another friend of hers. For the next 10-15 minutes or so, she carried on a conversation with her friend, and then, invited her friend to my house for a drink. She continued to speak to her friend until the individual arrived at my house. Over the next 30 minutes, they talked and drank in my kitchen. When she left, I was angry and frustrated. I thought that her cell phone etiquette was extremely poor (in that she was there to visit with me but spent time with somebody else) and I felt used.

Do you know that type of person that comes barreling in and just sort of takes over whether they are asked to or not? This describes Jane. If the situation isn’t to her liking, she makes it that way. I could sit here and discuss instance after instance but that is really counterproductive to the point in which I am trying to make. My point is that Jane is too narcissistic to care about anyone but herself as evident through her behavior the other night. Also, Jane doesn’t care enough about me to consider how I would feel when she asserts herself. Jane is the type of person that complicates my life, creates drama where drama shouldn’t exist. I have spent a lot of time and energy being angry and frustrated with Jane. So part of my new existence is to distance myself from the Jane(s) of the world and let in only those individuals who respect and care for me.

Simplicity is about getting rid of many of the things you do so you can spend time with people you love and do the things you love. It means getting rid of the clutter so you are left with only that which gives you value. In a sense, this is the next “chipping away” of my sculpture. While I know this won’t be an easy task (especially because our kids love each other) I also know that when I am around her, I feel bad about myself. So my inner artist will focus on this bit while I continue to search and define my authentic self.

Life's Symphony

"To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury; and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy, not respectable; and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly; to listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart; to bear all cheerfully, do all bravely, await occasion, hurry never; in a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony."

-- William Henry Channing

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Is Your Life Simple or Complicated

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Is your life complicated or simple? I know that my life used to be extremely complicated. It has taken me years to get to where I am in my simplistic journey and I still have a long way to go. I would rate myself as being half-way there (which is much better than having never begun the journey at all).

Simplicity is a process used to describe a lifestyle in which people opt out of a harried modern day life and choose to live one of frugality. I don’t mean that we necessarily live in poverty, its more a state of shifting our value systems in order to enjoy every minute of life’s energy. Simplicity means taking time for yourself in a hectic world.

While I have had some excellent teachers, I still have a long way to go in my own journey. I am working on clearing out the superfluous in my life to make room for more passion, depth and joy. I have some good friends coming along with me that make the road that much easier. One good friend came in to my house a couple of years ago and helped me get rid of so much stuff. It was just stuff that was cluttering my environment. I really wish we could do that exercise together again. It was incredible cathartic for me. We gathered items for the Good Will and what couldn’t go there.

As people, we become more and more stressed out from the pace of modern life and forget to LIVE life. It’s important to be mindful of each and every moment and dwell deeply in the present moment knowing that there is only one opportunity and it will never come again.

When we begin to search for meaning in our lives, we start to become aware of the emptiness and shallowness that surrounds us. This shallowness is primarily steeped in materialism and consumerism. We expend an tremendous amount of energy trying to keep up with the rat race. But, when we start to seek out a deeper meaning to our existence, we begin to ask ourselves, “What truly brings us joy?” Its so important that as human beings we are able to connect with our external environment as well as our internal spirituality, otherwise, we are out of balance with our surroundings.

Some tips for Simple Living:

1.De-clutter your surroundings. Ask yourself: “Do I use this? When did I use it last? Will I ever use it?” If the answer is no, get rid of it.

2.Decide what is really working in your life and let go of that which no longer serves you.

3.Encircle yourself with people who feed your soul. Shed those individuals from your life that you allow to make yourself feel small, insignificant, or lose confidence. Find friends who know that their glass is half-full and/or share the same value system as you.

4.Surround yourself with what you really need and love.

5.Carve some space for ‘mindful living’ so that you have time for ‘beingness’ rather than ‘doingness.’

Inspiration for this blog was at: http://www.pioneerthinking.com/gns_simplicity.html

Joy and Peace are Never Released Through Unbelief

“Joy is never released through unbelief, but it is always present where there is belief” –Joyce Meyer

Throughout this job search journey I was becoming increasingly negative. As each door closed it seemed like another was NOT opening. It was just one closed door after another. The one door that frustrated me greatly was from a recruiter in England. His name is Darren and he has ads running all the time for employees through a group that I belong to on Linked-in. Several times he advertised for positions which I felt fit me absolutely perfectly. I could not get that man to call me back. I would occasionally receive some short and snide comment from him over my “linked in” e-mail that said something to the effect of, “I’m sorry but we have nothing that fit your qualifications at this time but we will keep your resume on file.” How in the HE—did he know he had nothing that fit my qualifications when as far as I was concerned the job description outlined fit me to a tee! Because I was unable to connect with him personally he had no idea who I was or what I could do for his client. He never even made the attempt to try to get to know me past the paper. I tried to explain to him (electronically of course) that I was indeed able to work in the UK and throughout the EEU, I e-mailed him my resume and a separate explanation of my qualifications, I left him a message on his voice-mail in the UK. I don’t understand these people. My interaction (or lack thereof) made me feel undervalued as a potential employee and I started believing that I would never get a job.

While I know that I LET him make me feel this way, it caused a downward spiral in both my self esteem and self worth. I didn’t think I was ever going to get a job. In the end, I gave up “looking” about February and started this blog. All of the few interviews I had after that came from HR professionals pulling my resume off of Career Builders but to be honest, I had come to a low point in my career that I didn’t even really care anymore. Basically, I stopped believing that I would ever get a job and became increasingly depressed.

Just as regret and dread are “thieves of joy”, doubt and unbelief equally take the joy out of our lives.

I vow to work hard at believing that it will happen (whatever it may be at the time), that I can do it (whatever it may fall), and that it will all work out (whatever all defines).

Regret and Dread

“Regret of the past and dread of the future are both thieves of joy” – Joyce Meyer


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There are many individuals out there that keep themselves ensnared in the times of yore. But you know what? The past is the past! Forget about it! You can’t undo what has already been done. The question you should be asking yourself is “what did I learn from my past so I can live today without regret or dread?”

When we make mistakes, how much time to we put into “stewing” over the episode? How much drama do we create around the incident? We are upset, we are angry, we go through this process of grieving instead of allowing ourselves to be human, making the appropriate apologies to our loved ones (or even to our inner consciousness) and then moving on to enjoy life. Why be miserable? Again, as Joyce Meyer tells us, regret and dread steal our joy.

I am sitting here now, dreading grading the papers that I have put off for half of the college semester. There were so many so I just kept saying I will get to them. Every day, for about three weeks now, I have said to myself, “I have to get those papers graded.” I have stressed over it and worried about it but have I graded them? Well, no! If I had, I wouldn’t be sitting here dreading the task. That dread has stolen my joy for the past few weeks. Even now, as I sit here talking about it with total strangers, I am stalling in the task. I am living for tomorrow. Tomorrow may never come. I was reminded of this the latter part of last week when my neighbor suddenly died.

As I was getting the kids ready for school, I looked out the window for the bus and there was my neighbor, in his driveway across the street, surrounded by the local police department. You see, he had this little routine. We’ll call him Joe. Joe would wake up each morning and walk down to the end of the block, and then he would pick up his daily paper and go inside his house. The next thing we would see is that Joe would back his car out of the driveway and head down the road for a couple of hours. (Rumor had it that he was meeting his girlfriend at a local restaurant for coffee – Joe was a widow, in his 70’s). A couple of hours later, Joe would return and if I was outside I would get a wave. He was rarely outside, he rarely spoke. I got the feeling that Joe was a little on the shy/quiet side.

My point is, we have lived next door to him for 16 years and didn’t even know his last name. He came. He went. Then, he was gone.

I don’t want to have any more dread or regret. I am going to get those papers graded today. I am going to do my Sarano Kelley mind dump and take care of all those items that are weighing on my mind that I keep putting off because “I can do them tomorrow”. I am going to believe that the universe will take care of me and live for today because tomorrow may not come.

So I will live life for today and let my inner child enjoy every ounce that time has to offer. I will “Be a now person!” – Joyce Meyer